jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
[David Lynch] was a boomer who made his name by being weird and transgressive, and instead of using that as a license to behave like an asshole at all times, he was fundamentally full of joy and a profound love of his craft. He wasn't afraid of being earnest or uncool, of looking at the brokenness of the world and sitting with your sadness about it. And he felt no obligation to explain himself or suit his work to any tastes, high or low."
--Abigail Nussbaum, "Lynch"

In the late nineties, Jonathan had the entire run of Twin Peaks on VHS, and he and I watched it over the course of a few months. It's stuck with me in a way that a lot of what I watched in college didn't. Slow, meandering, confusing, incredibly visual: the only thing I'd seen even vaguely like it before was 2001. And Twin Peaks had a much broader range of human experiences and emotions to support and magnify its surreality and paranormality. I'm not sure I'd rewatch it; I'm not sure I'd recommend it to anyone else. But it certainly changed me.

Around the same time I watched Blue Velvet and Fire Walk With Me and Lost Highway (at least twice), and understood more or less none of them. With Lost Highway at least I quite enjoyed being swept away in the strangeness of it all. I never got around to seeing Mulholland Falls, or the Twin Peaks revival series. A few years ago I watched about half of Dune but stalled out after the massacre. Mostly I've enjoyed the existence of David Lynch, for being so very much who he is, and having such a strong sense of artistic (and personal?) vision.

So it goes.
INTERVIEWER: Elaborate on that.
DAVID LYNCH: No.
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
As distinct from my semi-estranged friend Abby (2016). Via Cooperjohn on FB, I see that Kory Heath has taken his own life. Fuck.

I met Kory in, god, I don't know. I know I predated him in hanging out with the Looneys, and I'm pretty sure he showed up after plastic Icehouse pieces. Call it 2000? He and Coop and Jake and toK ("the other Kristin" as distinct from Kristin Looney) comprised a sort of game design syndicate in the 2000s, focused mostly but not exclusively on Icehouse games. Their designs tended to be a bit spartan and soulless for my taste but they were eminently playable. One of Kory's, Uptown (reprinted as Blockers) is an elegant and vicious abstract game of tile-placement that I am terrible at and will happily break out when I've got three or four people and half an hour to kill.

His magnum opus, though, was Zendo, a beautiful game of induction. The original used Icehouse pyramids; it looks like there's a new one that just uses weird plastic shapes. I was lucky enough to playtest Zendo for what I remember as several years but couldn't have been more than a few months, and both played in and Mastered a couple of Zendo tournaments at Origins. (I still have one of Zarf's Zendo lounge panels. Mine is in the top picture, second from the right.) Zendo is one of those games that feels like it wasn't designed so much as discovered, and it feels like that despite my clear memory of the volume of development and changes it went through.

Kory stopped coming to Origins some years before I did, so I have no idea when the last time I saw him was. I kept hoping he'd turn up at the Gathering: Coop and Jake and toK all did, after all. But no dice. Maybe he would have been there this spring, with the publication of his and Coop's "cooperative deductive Texas Hold'em" The Gang this past summer, and I could have told him how great it was.

Kory was brilliant and quiet and funny and kind. One night in the early 2000s I played board games with him and other folks at a townhouse up near Baltimore until four in the morning, and then drove back to my parents' place in Burke. I startled the crap out of him when I gave him a hug for winning an Origins award for Zendo. I'm so grateful I got to know him.

Fuck depression.
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This morning, not for the first time, I had a brief flash of "I wish I could tell [personal profile] tam_nonlinear about that," and was a bit sad. Then it occurred to me that even if I'd ever found out whether she accepted my last apology, she would 100% have Taken Sides post-divorce. And like literally every other person who explicitly took sides, the side she took would not have been mine. So that was cheery. But to the left, Abby was nothing if not consistent. Why, what could she have done, being what she is? / Was there another Troy for her to burn?

(Yeats was an absolute tool and there's a lot about the sentiment of that poem that unintentionally says more about the poet than the subject. He did have a way with words, though.)



I've been trying to engage with Mr Tuppert more, in the hope that keeping him more stimulated will go some way towards diffusing his biteyness. It's working, maybe. I've successfully redirected him from "attacking my hand" to "attacking his catnip fishy" a couple of times now. Yesterday I replaced the batteries in the laser pointer, and it has once more become a highly effective distraction and cat-exhauster. My mother brought him a rather nice jumpy felt spider on a stick but he's mostly been uninterested, alas.



As part of the ADHD screening process I completed a half-dozen mental health questionnaires a couple of weeks ago. Based on interpreting what they're looking for from the questions asked and how I answered them, I exhibit some symptoms of ADHD pretty strongly. I also exhibit quite a few symptoms of depression at varying levels. This is I guess not really a surprise? Turns out that on some fundamental level I didn't really believe my depression diagnosis from when I was eighteen. Or I thought I was handling it better, or something. But: it's there, it's not going anywhere, I'm gonna have to do something about that too. Bah. Will see what the doctor says when I talk to her in a month and a half.

My parents also sent along all my childhood medical records. I bet there's some interesting stuff in there but I do not currently have it in me to decipher handwriting. Maybe next week.



On the classes front: everything is I believe sorted out regarding next term registration. My mapping instructor has softened his "no and fuck you for asking" stance enough to move ten percent of the overall grade from the missed midterm to the final, which is decent of him: I'm now only losing fifteen percent overall. And I am currently Caught Up on everything except Computing, which is what today's for.

I'm honestly starting to get a little worried about next term. It's only four courses but they're all upper-level. Much of what's being covered thus far is either review, or fundamental concepts that make perfect sense. Curious -- and nervous -- how I'll do when it's actually new and difficult material.



Tomorrow evening I fly out to Tampa, for several days with Steph. She's got a work conference, so I shall hole up in the hotel room during the day to do classwork, and spend time with her in the evenings. Should be alright. I'll miss my kitten, though.

I'd hoped Erin would come down in late September or early October, but for a variety of reasons that didn't happen, and I've thus far been unable to plan a trip up north for Yanksgiving-tide as well. Hoping for Solstice; school will be done, so it'll be a bit of an easier lift, maybe.



Right. Back on my head.
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So it goes.

There was once a boy named Milo who didn't know what to do with himself: not just sometimes, but all the time.

I adored The Phantom Tollbooth from the first time I read it, sometime in elementary school. Jules Feiffer's pen-scratch illustrations were the perfect complement to Juster's ridiculous wordplay ("I come from a place called Context, but I spend all my time out of it"), and the sheer ... directed coherent chaos of it all made me happy every time I picked it up.

(I saw the animated movie at some point and thought it was only okay. These days I'm inclined to agree with Juster, who said "When you transform a book into a film, there have to be changes.")

The documentary Beyond Expectations came out some years back, and it's such a delight all the way through. They got Juster and Feiffer together for lunch at some fancy restaurant and the two of them are clearly just having a great time. There's a trailer, which I recommend, below.

Onward.

debra doyle

Nov. 2nd, 2020 01:56 pm
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
I met Dr Doyle at VPXV, although my only memory of her from that week was her saying nice things about the story I'd hacked together written over the course of the week. Ran into her a few more times over the years and always enjoyed talking to her.

Mostly I knew her through her Dreamwidth, [personal profile] malkingrey. Her tales of life in rural New Hampshire acquired a certain familiarity when I started coming north on a regular basis. It's barely possible that we were related: turns out she's also a scion of Arkansas Taylors, though most recently from someplace other than the relations I know of.

She wrote a number of books with her husband Jim Macdonald. Of those, the Mageworlds space-opera are probably the best-known. Rollicking good fun, and recommended A+ fluff reading in these dark times.

Her daughter Pippin has set up a fundraiser to cover funeral expenses and getting Jim's feet back under him. They were midlist freelancers, and money was tight at the best of times.

Ave atque vale, Dr Doyle. May the air conditioning never break in your fantasy apartment in the World Without Shrimp.
jazzfish: Owly, reading (Owly)
I have been to Niagara, I have been sick, and Gene Wolfe has died.

I tried to read the Book of the New Sun in the late nineties and bounced off it hard. I don't actually remember this but I remember a conversation in an elevator at I think Balticon 2001, with Eeyore and Dan Efran and others, where I said that and they nodded sympathetically.

(I have very vague memories of Balticon 2001, including of why I went in the first place. I'm fairly certain it was with the Looneys, and I know Emily was there and I'm pretty sure Adam K-- was as well. And there were Pop-tarts.)

Then I tried Wolfe again a few years later, while I was working at Waldenbooks, and it all clicked a lot better. I started with There Are Doors and went on to the Solar Cycle, and enjoyed the New Sun and absolutely adored Long Sun, and on and on.

I met him once, at Balticon 2006, with Neil Gaiman and Peter Beagle. He and Neil signed my copy of their collaboration A Walking Tour Of The Shambles (Gene wrote "Beware of the alligator!"), and when I asked what he was working on after the Egyptian Latro book, he said "a book about pirates!" I half thought he was kidding me but no: Pirate Freedom came out next year.

He wrote brilliantly, dense and multilayered and complex and still fun to read. His last few have been less good, for me, so I don't so much mourn the books we might have had. But still. Maybe.

Some articles: Tor.com's obituary. Sci-Fi's Difficult Genius from 2015. Jeet Heer: Gene Wolf Was the Proust of Science Fiction. And [personal profile] rushthatspeaks has a remembrance as well.

In pace requiescat.
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
A lump in her lungs, says Emily. She's on oxygen.

Goddammit.

When Joe and Spotless moved out, we decided we needed a second cat for Chaos. So we talked to Bert. By then Bert had moved to a house out on a dirt road, and had a whole mess of cats coming and going at all hours. Kai was the one we could catch, so she was the one who came home. She was a muted tricolour calico (there's a word for it but I'm not coming up with it) (Edit: "dilute tortoiseshell," and let me tell you, tortitude is definitely a thing even diluted), all brown and grey with hints of orange.

She was always "the kitten," first because she was a kitten and then because she was so much smaller than Chaos. For a long time she was the skittish cat where Chaos was the friendly cat, likely due to having spent the first couple months of her life as a semiferal. But sometime after we moved to Vancouver she decided people were Good, if they weren't being too loud. So for the last N years she spent a lot of time in warm laps or on her fuzzy-blanketed catbed. If multiple people were on the couch she wanted to sit on all of them. She missed Chaos something fierce when we took him to get nuked, and even more when we took him away and he didn't come back again.

The last time I saw her was October of 2017. She was tiny and brown-going-grey and she grumped at me from her heated catbed and was happy to get petted.

Dammit, little cat. You couldn't hold on for two more days, so I could be there.
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
There's a sense in which the idea of UKL being gone is just too much, like Bowie two years ago... and there's a sense in which it's inevitable and something I can accept. For a word to be spoken, there must be silence. Before, and after.

I can't think of anyone who's had as much impact on the direction of my thoughts.

I read the first three Earthsea books in elementary school, and reread the first two over and over, enjoying the atmosphere and the saving-each-other aspect of Tombs of Atuan and, I think, trying to understand the ending of Wizard. Neither is precisely a heroic tale, though Tombs at least looks like one. Wizard isn't about growing stronger or overcoming evil, it's about growing wiser and accepting your own darkness. I stumbled on the occasional Le Guin short story and liked them alright; I read Tehanu a couple of years after it came out and was pretty unimpressed.

And there things sat until fall 2003, when I talked my advisor into letting me replace "American Lit Before 1900" in my degree requirements with a seminar on Le Guin. I had a fantastic teacher in Len Hatfield and a number of interesting and engaging classmates, including my then-girlfriend Kelly. We read ... not quite everything she'd written, but certainly a more than representative sample. I enjoyed her early novels, and flipped out over the chance to dig deep into Earthsea (including the two later books, which I liked much better than Tehanu), and thoroughly lost myself in her big two SF novels, The Dispossessed and The Left Hand of Darkness. And we did an in-depth analysis of her picture books, A Ride on the Red Mare's Back and the Catwings tetrology, and dug into her poetry, and of course bounced around her short stories, which I maintain are the form in which she did her best work.

But it was two nonfictionish pieces that stuck with me. Her essay "The Child and the Shadow" ... resonated, and I still can't talk about it, though I cited it quite a lot in my final paper. And her translation of the Tao Te Ching came to me at exactly the right time: I'd thrown my life into utter chaos and was desperately casting about for something to hold onto, something to make sense of it. And I got a simple, clear, poetic explication of the principle that things are, not for any reason but that they are, and that's enough.

That's not even getting into the ways that class accelerated my transition from technolibertarian to, maybe 'social justice cleric' is the best descriptor these days.

I never met Ursula Le Guin. Kelly did, and got her to sign a copy of the Tao Te Ching for me, which is part of why I have three copies. (Four if you count the ebook. Five if you count the CDs that came with the third copy.) I don't know what I could have said to her, anyway.
To live til you die
Is to live long enough.
jazzfish: Pig from "Pearls Before Swine" standing next to a Ball O'Splendid Isolation (Ball O'Splendid Isolation)
My contacts survived the week and a half in the dry dry north, perhaps thanks to a frequent application of eyedrops. Evenings without vision were bad enough; I'd prefer not to consider how bad it would have been to be practically blind for multiple days. Uncorrected, I can see well enough not to walk into things, mostly, and I can read on my phone more or less. (Reading on the iPad Mini doesn't work well because it's too big. I can't both see the entire width of the screen and have it be in focus.)

There's a sense of dislocation that comes on me when I'm flying. I don't feel like I'm going to or from anywhere, most times, there's no sense of motion. If it's daytime and I've a window seat and it's not overcast then the ground rushing past can keep me anchored, but this flight I got the tail end of a sunset through thick clouds. Still felt unanchored until sometime Monday morning. Maybe I still do, a bit. Yesterday was blue, like smoke.

The only Tom Petty album I ever owned was his Greatest Hits (I listened to Wildflowers and She's The One a few times but they didn't really stick), but I played the hell out of that CD. Fantastic road-trip music. And "Don't Come Around Here No More" has long been one of my favourite music videos. I think back in college Jonathan had a Tom Petty video collection, on VHS, with that and "Into the Great Wide Open" and "Mary Jane's Last Dance" and the weirdly post-apocalyptic-sci-fi "You Got Lucky". Rewatching that one now, the wardrobes have a deeply contemporary aesthetic. Or maybe it's just that I've seen Into the Badlands and Mad Max and the trailer for The Dark Tower recentlyish. So it goes.

Disjointed, dislocated, disconnected. Drifty. It's a glorious green-gold autumn in the north; down here the trees are starting to fade to dirty brown. I miss Appalachian fall. I'd contemplated going to visit Blacksburg this October. Maybe next year.
We cross our bridges as we come to them and burn them behind us, with nothing to show for our passage except a dim memory of the smell of smoke and a presumption that once our eyes watered.
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I'm mostly adapted to being a one-cat household now. It feels like learning to live with and work around a missing tooth: it mostly doesn't matter, except when something slips and you realise that it's not quite right and hasn't been for awhile.

Kai is lonely, as expected. She's taken over the duty of sitting with anyone who's on the couch, and round midnight she complains that there's no one else in the cat-bed.

I don't know how I grieve, not really. I know how to hold together and I know how to be a sympathetic shoulder.



Other than that.

Viola: there is a marked difference between knowing what you're doing wrong, and knowing how to do it right. At my lesson on Tuesday I think (hope) that I've finally figured out how to hold my left hand properly and in a more natural / less tense position. Gonna have to drill that into me for actual playing of things other than scales, but it felt right enough that I couldn't go back to holding it the way I'd been at the start of the year. Progress, maybe. I'm also gonna have to learn how to play a close second finger: my hand doesn't seem to want to move like that in that angle. Carnegie Hall.

Also sometime in the last year I developed the ability to tune by fifths rather than by harmonics, which is neat. Harmonics: if you rest your finger halfway up one string, not pressing down to the fingerboard, you get a neat ringing tone that's an octave above the open string. If you rest your finger a quarter of the way up the next lower string, it makes the same tone. You can tune your instrument by making sure these tones are the same. Alternately, if you can hear perfect fifths, you can just play both open strings simultaneously and tune one until the chord sounds right. This is the 'normal' way to tune a stringed instrument, and I couldn't do it until recently. So that's neat.

Work: The act of deciding that I want to look for a new job has been remarkably freeing. Work is still stupid and slow but that bothers me way less. Partly that's because the awful IT guy is gone; partly it's because not caring and not feeling trapped makes the idiocies far more bearable. We're still not getting bonuses, we still haven't gotten raises in coming on two years, but, eh. Whatever. If it gets bad enough I can leave, and meanwhile there's breathing room here to work out some stuff.

Condo: Emily's put in a raised bed on the patio, using leftover 4x4s from when they redid the fencing in February. The kitchen cabinets are being put in late next week, and hopefully the counter will go in early the week after.

I am more and more convinced that this is an acceptable stop-gap place, and a fine place to make money on for no reason (we bought for $480 in October; a somewhat-nicer unit in this building sold in February for $600, and an only-slightly-nicer one in March for $570), and unsuitable long-term. I'd thought/hoped that it was just barely big enough; it turns out that it's a little too small. The lack of insuite laundry is getting to me, as expected. Etc. Oh well. Something else will turn up.

I'm also becoming less and less certain that I want to stay in Vancouver, but that's a whole different fishkettle.
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
I've been expecting to write this post for, what, four years now? It's somehow not gotten any easier in the meantime.

wall of cat text )
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Sometime last week I came across a passing link, probably somewhere in the Lawyers, Guns & Money comments, to All Birds Are Cats. I started off somewhat baffled, but by the end of the two-minute clip I couldn't stop giggling. "Well, look, if you're not prepared to do the research, Bryan, why make the statement in the first place?"

It seems that John Clarke and Bryan Dawe have made a career for the last thirty years of doing these little two-minute satirical interview sketches, one a week, for Australian television. Some of them are downright brilliant, for example, The Front Fell Off (I have not laughed so hard in ages). Many rely on a grasp of Australian politics that I just don't have, but are still delightful to watch.

Sadly John Clarke died early in April, while 'bushwalking' and birdwatching. On the bright side there's an awful lot of Clarke & Dawe on their Youtube channel, and more to come.

onward

Dec. 29th, 2016 09:27 am
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
The sceptre, learning, physick, must
All follow this, and come to dust.
--Wm. Shakespeare, "Cymbeline"
My family moved to the DC area for the first time in 1983, when I was starting second grade. Being who we were the first thing we did was find a church. The one we ended up at, St Stephens UMC, had a round (octagonal, but whatever) sanctuary rather than the standard two-columns-of-pews arrangement, which was neat. It also had a great pipe organ, and a white-haired organist who I can't recall ever not being there.
Steel on the skyline
Sky made of glass
Made for a real world
All things must pass
--David Bowie, "Heathen (The Rays)"
We left DC in '86 but still occasionally came to services at St Stephens. When we moved back in '91 we started going again. I got more involved with the church for a few years: ushering, youth group, that sort of thing. I was never on more than nodding acquaintance with the organist, which I can tell by how his name sticks in my mind as "Bob Layne" rather than "Mr Layne," but he was as much a fixture as the round sanctuary or Mr Prosser the head usher. (More so than the preacher; Methodists tend to change preachers every few years, to avoid the situation where the guy who's been in the pulpit for decades up and dies and nobody trusts the new preacher until he's been there five or ten years.)
There's flowers now on Linn Street, and a new moon just above
They tore down all the houses where we used to make love
But they'd been long abandoned when we went there, anyway
And I can still smell the lilacs in the corner of the Dream Café
--Greg Brown, "Dream Café"
I drifted away from the church over the course of several years but I still went back on occasion to see people. After all, these were the only non-relations I'd known for longer than five years, then ten. Always, every time I went back, Bob Layne was at the organ, looking exactly like I remembered him.
Yet all things come in time to die.
--Graydon Saunders, "A Succession of Bad Days"
As you might have expected from the fact that I'm writing this, he's gone now, along with Mr Prosser and the round sanctuary and my perception of the church as a loving and welcoming place. (That last took a mortal blow twenty years ago when they fired one of their best and most-loved people with no notice, on suspicion of homosexuality. It hung on for awhile but never made anything like a recovery.) Bob Layne's death doesn't mean anything, but I guess it symbolises quite a lot.
For a word to be spoken, there must be silence. Before, and after.
--Ursula K. Le Guin, "A Wizard of Earthsea"
Addendum: "Robert Lee Layne." For fuck's sake, treason-in-defence-of-slavery apologists.
The past is never dead. It's not even past.
--William Faulkner, "Requiem for a Nun"
jazzfish: a black-haired man with a big sword. blood stains the snow behind (Eddard Stark)
I'd been invited to an election-watching party but Erin was unexpectedly free, so I spent the evening at home with her instead. Then [personal profile] uilos came home too around nine-thirty, and a differently very nice evening transitioned into a few hours of sleepy snuggly domesticity. That, I am pretty sure, is why I'm on as even a keel as I am.

I remember the aftermath of 2004. I felt angry, betrayed, confused. Today I mostly feel numb. ("You can't /feel/ numb. You can only /be/ numb. Be numb. Be numb.")



My friend [personal profile] tam_nonlinear died last night.

I mean, I don't know how accurate those first two words are. We were friends and her friendship helped me through some very rough patches. She took me to Tribal Cafe, an amazing monthly belly dance show in DC, and introduced me to Avatar: The Last Airbender, and gave me "Thanks, Robert Frost" and "After the Pyre" when I needed them. She was also prickly, and I did a number of insensitive things that upset her, and I don't know if she ever accepted my last apology some years ago. For a year or two I've been torn between writing her to see where we're at, versus leaving her her space.

Her last writing, posted this morning: Sycamore. We do not always get to recover.



Today I pull into myself.

When I reemerge in a day, a week, next year, I want to forge a still safe space and open it to good people. I want to build a thing -- a community -- that increases the kindness in the world. Ideally I'd like for its seeds to spread in some fashion but I suppose that's not necessary. I have very little idea what it would look like; only a sense of ... atmosphere, I guess.

I've been chewing over this idea for months, if not years now. Too, it's perhaps something concrete and useful in a time when there's less hope to go around.

You can't save the world, here, says Erin, just contribute to a little corner of it.

I want to give other people a chance to recover. Maybe that's enough.
jazzfish: A red dragon entwined over a white. (Draco Concordans)
Words are inadequate (the poor craftsman curses his tools) to describe the beauty of our coasts, but words are what I have available.

--John M. Ford, "Chromatic Aberration"
Twenty-six years ago, give or take, I kept seeing "How Much For Just the Planet?" on the spinner-rack at the Fayetteville library. I never checked it out, though. I do wonder what that might have done for my reading habits.

Ten years and a couple months ago I read Heat of Fusion and Other Stories for the second time. This time I got it. "Chromatic Aberration" and the Hemingway pastiche "The Hemstitch Notebooks" remain two of my absolute favourite short stories, for wildly different reasons.

Ten years less a few days ago I cracked up at a Star Wars joke hidden in a period discussion of Renaissance theatre in "The Dragon Waiting."

Five years and nine months (ish) ago I got married under the Declaration of Unity.

Five years less a few weeks ago, TNH asked me "Who do you want to write like?" and my eyes filled up with tears and I mumbled "Mike Ford."

Ten years and a day ago I sat down at a computer to start a class on using MicroStrategy and pulled up my Livejournal friends page, and the first thing I saw was a post from Jo Walton headlined "John M. Ford, 1957-2006".
Hush, now, at the glass clouding, hush at the silicon crumbling, hush be still at the metal flowing atom by atom, spare no protest for evaporation and cold welding and decay, for Time shall take its own.

--John M. Ford, "All Our Propagation"
Footnote: If you've not read "Against Entropy" in its original setting, do. It's the first comment. Note the timestamp on the post, and on the comment.
jazzfish: Pig from "Pearls Before Swine" standing next to a Ball O'Splendid Isolation (Ball O'Splendid Isolation)
This is an old stupid story and I'm tired of living it:

At the age of twelve I'd been hearing for years that I could be anything I wanted to be, that I was smart enough to do anything at all. So I told my parents that I wanted to be a writer, and write F&SF novels.

My mother famously answered, "How are you going to put food on the table?"

Lesson learned: I could be anything I wanted to be as long as my parents were okay with it.

A stronger kid might have said "screw you guys" and kept writing anyway. I wasn't that kid: I still desperately needed my parents' approval, because being an army brat meant that I didn't have anyone else, at all. I spent the next N years trying to simultaneously fit my future into the box of Acceptable To My Parents, while making my present Acceptable To Me.

In hindsight, it's no wonder that I was depressed.



That's not the story I'm telling now but it's useful background. So, take it as told.

During my terrible terrible junior year of high school, my English teacher was Ms Bettie Stegall. I can only assume she didn't think much of me. I certainly didn't give her much reason to. My teenage rebellion mostly took the form of not showing up and not doing the work, and Ms Stegall's English class was not one where I could slide by. I got my shit sufficiently together to pass, somehow.

For senior year English we had a few choices. The only ones I can remember are AP Literature and Writing Seminar. Had I chosen AP Lit, I could have taken the English AP exam, and placed out of freshman English at Tech. (And likely not ever have read Borges, and my life would have been the poorer for it.) On the other hand, there was Writing Sem, advertised as being meant for creative writers.

The point of the old story above: I never gave up wanting to be a writer. I just gave up on doing much about it, because no one cared.

I signed up for Writing Sem in the hope that it would make me into a writer. Ms Stegall taught Writing Sem; I took it anyway. I don't remember much of the class but then senior year was a depressive burnt-out blur for me. In Writing Sem I tutored a special-needs second-grader with Jen Larson, and read Catch-22 which was exactly the right book for me at that point, and taught Kafka's Metamorphosis to freshmen with the help of Brian Aldiss's parody "Better Morphosis". I'm sure there was writing, too: I recall terrible poetry, and a Finnegans-Wake-style stream-of-consciousness depiction of a high school class.

Throughout the year I'd hear whispers from other students about how they were working with Ms Stegall on ... things. A chapbook of poetry, a collection of monologues, whatever. Books. Actual books. (I only ever saw one, and that only because Nesa used a photograph I'd taken in photography class to go with one of her poems.) And I'd think "that would be kinda cool," and then I'd stop thinking about it, because I had no idea what I'd do other than "i want to write" and, well, I'd already nearly failed out of one of Stegall's classes for not caring.

And so I graduated from high school, and went off to college, and the rest, as they say, is history. Or silence. One of those.



My memories of Ms Stegall are of someone who contribued to making my life miserable junior year, and didn't much care about me during senior year.

Maybe six months ago I fell into a snarky Facebook group of alums from my high school. This weekend, someone reported that Ms. Stegall had died.

Immediate outpouring of grief and love and "she was my favourite teacher" and "she kicked my ass and really helped me get my writing in gear" and specific tangible things she'd done for people.

I had no such response. I got none of that from her.

Thing is, I'd really like to have. I wish I'd been someone that she saw enough potential in to encourage, to kick my ass and get me in gear.

But that would have required me to have gone through junior year differently, and for that to have happened, the changes keep going back until I'm not even recognisable to myself anymore.

And just showing up isn't enough for that. No mentor will come to me and say "yes, i will teach you, and help you, and guide you, and care about what you do." Most of the time I'm grown-up enough to know that.

Most of the time.

I make no promises as to whether I will reply to any comments here.

oof

Aug. 14th, 2016 08:03 pm
jazzfish: an open bottle of ether, and George conked out (Ether George)
Home from wedding (someone else's) in nearly-Oregon. Survived the week of many minor stresses, to wit:
  • House-hunting in Vancouver is stupid. The first realtor I talked to said straight out "I cannot in good conscience sell anyone a condo in an older building, and that's all you can afford. Have you thought about looking much further out?" Thankfully the agent we went with is willing to a) wait for the right place to come up, and b) do a lot of due diligence on older buildings if that's what we're interested in. Meanwhile prices continue to climb despite sales slowing down. I don't understand how that works either.
  • Company got acquired. I'm still employed, I figure 60-80% chance of still being employed this time next month, but still, hectic.
  • A couple of my good friends are having problems. Nothing that can't be worked out, I expect, but no fun in the meantime.
  • Partly as a result of that one of them dropped out of RPG night, necessitating a scramble for a replacement and also some quiet freaking-out over whether I've done something stupid as GM. (Or as a human being, but I freak out about that all the time anyway, that's nothing new.)
  • And to top it all off, on Thursday night Chaos (the arthritic, hyperthyroid, kidney-failing, stud-tailed, no-longer-diabetic stubborn-as-hell cat) started heavily favoring his right hind foot, to the extent of not being willing/able to put any weight on it, even to climb up onto the couch to sit with people. He spent Friday hiding under the bed, partly to get away from the piledriving across the street but probably partly because he was miserable and in pain.
Oof.

Fall over now, I think. Things what I fully intend to post about this week:
  • Aforementioned wedding, incl. good conversation with Dr HawkWhale (WhaleHawk?)
  • Twenty years on the Van Gogh boat, or, me and Julian Schnabel's Basquiat
  • My senior year English teacher died last week, and I wish that mattered more to me (It doesn't; condolences aren't necessary)
  • Housing in Vancouver is beyond stupid

Meanwhile, onward.
jazzfish: Jazz Fish: beret, sunglasses, saxophone (Default)
"... but behind me, my cats are doing a conga line." (Reference)



I've had a new chair at work for about two weeks now. The desks at work supposedly go up and down so they can double as standing desks, only mine doesn't go up high enough to be a comfortable height for standing. I could get risers for it, but then it won't go down low enough to trade off sitting & standing. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I finally got a tall chair and a set of risers for the desk, so I've been a stand-up guy off and on. It's good: standing up means I move around more often and don't get quite so stiff.

I've had this chair for less than two weeks, *at work*, and it's already got cat hair on it.



Posts what I have not written and would like to:
  • Musicking
  • Why Transistor (the video game) Doesn't Work, Narratively Speaking
  • On the Impossibility of Finding an Apartment in This Town
  • Harrison Hot Springs, Again
  • Ask Me Where My Money Goes
  • Burnout Or Just Tired?
jazzfish: an evil-looking man in a purple hood (Lord Fomax)
People who have suffered existence failure during the most recent year of the Wood Goat:
  • Sir Terry Pratchett
  • Sir Christopher Lee
  • Leonard Nimoy
  • David Bowie
  • Alan Rickman
  • David Hartwell
For once in my life I am seriously looking forward to February. Specifically, 7 February and the year of the Fire Monkey.
jazzfish: Pig from "Pearls Before Swine" standing next to a Ball O'Splendid Isolation (Ball O'Splendid Isolation)
Last week (from Monday) was just kinda unpleasantly grey and heavy. I started the morning spacey and forgetting things, and then Bowie.

(Interlude: the setlist from the 1997 concert, courtesy Megan H-- from high school who I met up with there. Holy cats that was an amazing show. Now that I see the list I remember "I'm Waiting for the Man" and "White Light / White Heat," plus "Scary Monsters" and his weird spoken intro to "Hallo Spaceboy" and "Earthlings on Fire" and and. Yowza. Interlude over.)

That pushed me down into a pretty blah place overall, with no real chance to recover during the week. News of Alan Rickman didn't help any but that was more numbing shock than an actual emotional blow: I don't have as much connection to Rickman's work. And then the weekend was decent: among other things we picked up the first three seasons of Futurama and are working through that. It's aged surprisingly well, and so far every episode has had multiple not-just-heh-but-genuinely-funny moments. Sold some games, had barbecue from the amazing barbecue joint across the tracks, mostly hung around the house and worked on getting back up to speed.

But for whatever reason I haven't been reading LJ/DW. (Or twitter, but no surprise there.) I'm slowly catching back up: I've started reading at work now, for one thing.

Anyway, if you're wondering: I'm doing alright, but I miss you.

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"Jazz Fish, a saxophone playing wanderer, finds himself in Mamboland at a critical phase in his life." --Howie Green, on his book Jazz Fish Zen

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