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jazzfishElseweb, a thoughtful person says I exist primarily in words. Meaning there are very few conversations I would rather have face to face instead of over IM or e-mail.
Her reasons make a great deal of sense to me. Particularly I don't have a record of the conversation later to consult and ask further questions on. There are a number of Hard Conversations that I'm happy I had over IM, because that way I can go back later and say "oh, that's what that meant" or "i was a jerk and need to apologise and make amends for that" or "wow, that was kinda fucked up." And having the time and leisure to think out a response clearly and see that it's saying more or less what I want it to say helps as well.
Even so, when things are overwhelming, when I'm so hurt or angry I can't process, I need more contact than chat or email can give me. I need the sensory input that tells me there's a human being on the other end of the conversation. I need that knowledge, that visceral reassurance, that says I'm still here, even though this is hard I'm still with you.
Physical presence and contact are preferable. Voice will do in a pinch.
(Not that I expect this to come up anytime soon, or likely ever, with anyone reading this. It's more for my own record than anything.)
Her reasons make a great deal of sense to me. Particularly I don't have a record of the conversation later to consult and ask further questions on. There are a number of Hard Conversations that I'm happy I had over IM, because that way I can go back later and say "oh, that's what that meant" or "i was a jerk and need to apologise and make amends for that" or "wow, that was kinda fucked up." And having the time and leisure to think out a response clearly and see that it's saying more or less what I want it to say helps as well.
Even so, when things are overwhelming, when I'm so hurt or angry I can't process, I need more contact than chat or email can give me. I need the sensory input that tells me there's a human being on the other end of the conversation. I need that knowledge, that visceral reassurance, that says I'm still here, even though this is hard I'm still with you.
Physical presence and contact are preferable. Voice will do in a pinch.
(Not that I expect this to come up anytime soon, or likely ever, with anyone reading this. It's more for my own record than anything.)
contact
Date: 2011-03-19 02:57 pm (UTC)in the same vein, lunch?
Re: contact
Date: 2011-03-21 06:58 pm (UTC)Lunch!
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Date: 2011-03-20 04:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-03-21 01:38 pm (UTC)(also, re your userpic.)