nice day for a warm wedding

[jazzfish]

I've started a filter that covers my ramblings on what I'm writing. I've sort of guessed at who might be interested in reading such a thing; if you are and you can't see the previous post, let me know and I'll add you. Contrariwise, if you'd rather not be subject to those posts and currently are, you can ask to be removed and I won't be offended in the slightest.

I spent Satyrday at 80% of an an outdoor wedding in Culpeper, followed by an outdoor reception, where it was both hot and humid. I hate Virginia summers. uilos was gorgeous in her purple bridesmaid dress and sculpted hair, as was rislyn, who simply glowed.

Like every wedding I've been to, this one sharply reduced my desire to ever get married. This should be taken as no reflection on the happy couple, merely on my own tolerance for Ceremony and Tradition and Doing It This Way Because My Relatives Insist. If my relatives (or my partner's) want a party they can throw it themselves, preferably without inviting me.

The cake can stay, though.

Comments

[smcapote117.livejournal.com]

Please include me in your ramblings filter. I enjoy peeking into your life (as well as Uilos' life) from time to time.

On another note, I agree with your sentiments on weddings. They can be an enjoyable event to attend, but I often cringe at the thought of having one of my own. (Also, this has no reflection on the happy state of my wonderful relationship).

[jazzfish]

Done!

And, bleh. I'm actually rather grateful to rislyn for including uilos in her wedding, since that experience makes it way less likely that I'll be subjected to one of my own. :)

[smcapote117.livejournal.com]

Most excellent! *evil grin*

[tamnonlinear.livejournal.com]

I really cannot imagine you having a Generic Wedding. I don't understand the appeal of Generic Weddings anyway. I suppose being part of a grand tradition that goes back at least a couple of decades is comforting and meaningful for a lot of people, but I'd feel lost in it.

Not that I'm ever doing it again, so something of a moot point for me.

[jazzfish]

There was a time when it could have been what would have happened, but even so I would have been horribly uncomfortable and stiff.

And tradition, feh. Traditions all seem to have been designed by extroverts for extroverts.

[pictsy.livejournal.com]

Oh my gosh, Saturday was like a sauna.

[jazzfish]

It was everything I hate about summer all rolled into one icky day: rain that doesn't cool anything down, sunlight that glares and roasts, and OH THE HUMIDITY.

[tirani.livejournal.com]

I would be interested in seeing your writings.

[jazzfish]

Done, although at this point it's writings about writings. I'll likely inflict the finished form of the actual prose on the world at large (behind a cut, I'm not that cruel).

[lyricon.livejournal.com]

I'd love to see what you write. It keeps me interested and entertained whilst giving tests and quizzes to my poor students. :)

[jazzfish]

:) Done, although at this point it's writings about writings. I'll likely inflict the finished form of the actual prose on the world at large (behind a cut, I'm not that cruel).

(Also, sorry I missed things last weekend! Everything possible seems to have been scheduled for Satyrday night, except for the things that were the weekend before.)

[rislyn.livejournal.com]

:-) We were going with "it was lots better than the morning weather".

And glad there were good parts. :-)

(No, I'm not on LJ, I have no idea what you're talking about...)

[jazzfish]

It's not so much that you're on LJ, I'd totally be doing that myself. It's that you're on LJ at 8:20 AM. . .

[uilos.livejournal.com]

Well, that makes three of us here at stupid o'clock in the morning.

[jazzfish]

Right, but we've got the excuse that we're not on our honeymoon.

[thanate.livejournal.com]

Just recently read a Cat Valente story with the following concept in: It's important to marry someone, she said. Not because you need them to complete you or because you ought to be someone's wife by hook or by crook. It's just that worlds want to combine, they want to marry, and they use people to do it, the way you mix medicine in with something sweet, so it's easy to swallow. That's why we have to have all those silly things: a frilly dress and something blue and a bachelor party and a priest. Just so that a boy and a girl can live together and make babies? Posh. Because the big worlds inside us are mating, and they need the pomp.

Of course, we chopped everything down to the smallest possible, and had about 5 minutes of ceremony with somewhere between 30 & 40 people (we had a bunch of no-shows at the last minute), and then food & cake. If grauwulf hadn't wanted his grandparents to be there, we would have seriously considered not making a big thing of it at all, although my objection was more to the planning part.

Also, I feel for your friends-- we had a 90 degree day at the end of April, which was really a bit much.

[jazzfish]

I like the sound of that. I just. . . have no use for the pomp, myself.

Ask tamnonlinear about "Good news! We're getting married! And you're all invited!" sometime. Best possible wedding, in my opinion.

(Also, this summer has been simply horrid, and it's not even started yet.)

[isolde-deely.livejournal.com]

do what is right for you...not what the relatives want


and definitely...cake :)

[jazzfish]

Oh heck yes. At this point I'm mostly irritated that I have to spend hours doing what someone else's relatives want. My friends choose to suffer for their family's sake, and by god the rest of us will too.

[befers.livejournal.com]

I would like to be on your filter.

Also, regarding weddings: when my best friend got married, they invited their eight closest friends to an extremely wonderful restaurant most of us normally wouldn't have been able to afford, exchanged their own vows, and announced it to everyone else later. No muss, no fuss, no officiant, no tradition. We got to share a very personal and unique moment with them, plus dinner was fantastic. Pennsylvania does not require an officiant at a wedding, simply two non-related witnesses.

Not saying that's what you should do, but if you ever decide you want to, you can still make it your own.

[jazzfish]

Writing filter: done!

That sounds like a most excellent way to do things as far as weddings go. I /do/ like Pennsylvania's non-requirement.

I have a handful of Ideas for the "wedding" itself. Most of them involve something along the lines of "so, hey, we're getting married in the other room in fifteen minutes, and you're invited."