Nov. 30th, 2012

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As previously mentioned, Thursday I met up with [livejournal.com profile] jpenamelist at Great Falls, where we walked and talked for three and a half hours, and then had lunch and conversation over the next couple of hours. This... is not entirely without precedent but is very much worth noting.

I like talking to people, but not that much. I tend to get twitchy after a couple of hours, tops, and ready to go introvert for a bit. I can think of very few times since college that I've talked for hours with someone I didn't know well.

How I know Jenn, briefly: we were friends in high school, and then we reconnected a couple of years ago. This is accurate, barely, as far as it goes, and it doesn't even go that far.

Friends, yeah, but I wouldn't say we were close friends at all. We had a couple of classes together, moved in some of the same circles. After graduation we more or less lost touch; ran into each other a few times at Ren Faire and similar large gatherings, that sort of thing. When I moved back to DC I gradually became aware of a social group, including Jenn, that I orbited at a distance and felt not-quite-right in getting closer to. She invited me to her New Years Eve 2009 party, to which I went with my ex and at which I started getting a sense of what it is I'm missing from other people in general.

Then at Ren Faire '10, a week or so after getting dumped, I ran into Jenn and her partner Todd. She suggested meeting for lunch sometime next week, and I was too shell-shocked to weasel my way out of it.

I'm rather glad I didn't. Lunch was enjoyable enough that we repeated it several more times before I wound up out here, a little further away than Tysons. After the move she and [livejournal.com profile] darkfyre_muse flew out with the cats and stayed for a day or two, and that was very good as well. And since then, because I never got used to the idea of "talking to Jenn" the way I did with a couple of other people, I've been crap at staying in touch.

Which is why I'm grateful that she poked me about getting together when I was in DC. And why I'm writing this: so maybe I won't forget again.



There's really no question that I needed to move when I did. Change of scene, change of weather, change of lifestyle. I still deeply regret the people I left behind me. Everything else is replaceable, eventually.

Clearly you should all move out west.

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"Jazz Fish, a saxophone playing wanderer, finds himself in Mamboland at a critical phase in his life." --Howie Green, on his book Jazz Fish Zen

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